This weekend I’ll be celebrating my son Harry’s twenty-fourth birthday at a table for three with him and his boyfriend. His actual birthday is next week, but he’ll be with friends in San Francisco. I can’t wait to clink glasses in honor of Harry being Harry! I’ll make my annual silent toast, too, on the anniversary of being his mom and for all the joys that come with the titles of parenthood.
I’m proud of my son. He knows himself, trusts himself and believes in his worthiness. He’s confident, happy, optimistic and resilient; qualities his dad and I worked hard to instill in him. He’s taught me a thing or two, as well. Here are a few lessons from his early years.
- No matter what books you read about what to expect from a child, it’s the unexpected that makes you think and dig deep into your heart.
- Children are not here to please their parents. They have their own desires, likes, dislikes and preferences.
- Children are born with knowledge of their own basic uniqueness and value.
- Children are better than adults at accepting their differences.
- Life is supposed to be fun!
I still learn from Harry, mostly about gender identity and the infinite blends of gender expression. So celebrating Harry’s birthday reminds me not just how much I love and admire him, but why I write this blog and how much I have to share in my book about the journey of a mom whose son wears heels.
Is there a standout lesson you’ve learned from the child or children in your life? Please take a sec to jot it down in the Comments below.